Afterglow | How To Integrate the Lessons of the February 2017 Eclipses

You can go your whole life never paying attention to eclipses.  But I've learned that being aware of the changes that occur within us, and the things that manifest in our lives around eclipses hold great significance that help us heighten our consciousness.  

You are here, reading this, because you are aware, open-minded and perhaps, even intrigued by your own spiritual power.  As author Barbara De Angelis says, your cosmic alarm clock has gone off.  You know there is more out there, and more within you to discover; more of an impact YOU can make.

Eclipses are a sacred time when we experience a glimpse into our future reality through the events that manifest.  There are great lessons to learn, if we know how to connect the dots.


We just recently moved through a Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Leo & a New Moon Solar Eclipse in Pisces.  Now we've entered what I like to call, the Afterglow.  

When an eclipse is especially intense, the days and even weeks afterwards can feel like a hangover, but let's consciously choose to reframe it as an afterglow.  (Doesn't that feel much better to you, too?!)


The "Afterglow" phase is an adjustment period.


It's when we actually can feel like we have a lot more control, once the dust has settled from the chaos that occurred in our lives during the eclipses.  After all, eclipses can bring up the stuff we've suppressed or ignored (possibly for a very long time) so we must face it somehow. Once it's in your face like that, it takes time to recalibrate, adjust your sails and then, ideally, use it to grow & evolve.


Not-so-coincidentally, a water pipe burst in the basement of my home during these eclipses. That one event had all the components of how eclipses energetically affect us...

It was an emergency.  It could not be put off or ignored or dealt with later.  It required my immediate attention.

It was in my basement, symbolic of my subconscious or un-conscious.  The explosion occured in the unfinished part of my basement, representative of "unfinished business".

It was emotional.  I moved from panic (not sure what to do), to fear of further damage, frustration and then relief when it was finally repaired.

It had to be fixed and I had to call in reinforcements.  (In this case, my hubs and a plumber.)

As a result of the pipe bursting, and flooding my basement, the nooks and crannies of my basement floor got really clean.  Spaces that I rarely pay attention to had to be mopped up with a swamp vac... My basement floors have probably never been so clean! Very symbolic of the purification and cleansing that comes with these experiences.


I tell you this story because if we can look back what transpired for us during the eclipse, we can see the wisdom in it.  And most importantly, consciously use that wisdom moving forward.


The first step in intergrating your lessons from these most recent eclipses is to REVIEW.

If lots of crazy things happened, pick one to focus on and review.


IDENTIFY the keys of that experience, like I did with my basement-flooding, pipe-bursting fiasco.

What did you feel when that happened?  How did you react?

Was there anything symbolic of where or how it happened? How did it get resolved?  Did you need to speak up and ask for help?  Who was there for you?

What did this clear out or clean up for you?


WRITE your story down, even if it's just a couple of sentences.  Consider putting that piece of paper in an envelope, date it and seal it.  Place it somewhere, not too far out of sight, and label it OPEN IN AUGUST 2017.

This is a powerful practice and if you choose to do it, I'd love for you share the magic that happens with me when you open your letter to yourself 6 months later! (That happens to be when our next pair of eclipses will occur.)


The final step to integrating and amping up your Spiritual Awakening (because that's ultimately, what these last eclipes were on a mission to do for all of us) is to SURRENDER and BE DELIGHTED.

Acknowledge that the situation, or perhaps only the initial shock of the situation, is over.  It is now in the past.  It's ok to let it go.  No judgments.  No rehashing it out, like... oh, if I had only done this or that things would have been different. -- None of that!  Really surrender to the Universe, so you can live in hte here and now.  There can be no integration when you're stuck reliving that story in your head.

To be delighted is to be grateful for it in some way, and recognize the magic of it.

My crisis with the water pipe bursting and flooding my basement taught me SO much.  I realized why I had been feeling panicky for days before it even happened.  I developed a deeper understanding of my astrology chart through that very down-to-earth eruption.

I would never wish for a pipe to burst again! BUT, I can see the value in that experience.  That's what's important.  That's what allows us to learn it, use it and move forward in ANY situation.

If your experience was particularly sensitive, or emotionally volatile, it may take more time to find the delight in it.  That is perfectly ok.  It is way easier to get over a pipe bursting, and even shelling out the cash to fix it, than it is to recover from a break-up or tragedy.  Be gentle with yourself and be delighted in little things that show up for you in the here and now, that are totally unrelated to that experience.  Know that when you open up your letter and read your story 6 months from now, you may discover hidden treasures that you cannot see right now.


Fully embracing the AFTERGLOW of an eclipse can be so powerful! Eclipses are designed to really help us break free and awaken more of ourselves and our potential here on Earth.  All we have to do is use what we've learned, consciously, moving forward.






On Glowing With It, Weak Signals & a Dash of Synchonicity

If you joined me on Facebook last week for my Glow With It! Workshop that I hosted via FB Livestream, you'll know how I was struggling with maintaining a consistent internet connection.  I was super excited to talk about my favorite subjects; eclipses & psychic power.  I was all prepared to share my tips and strategies with you to help YOU tap into your power & amplify your intution this eclipse season.  But, it didn't turn out exactly as I had expected.

My first attempt was riddled with that "your internet connection is too weak" error message.  After having to pause several times due to this interruption, the connection was eventually completely lost.  

I checked my home network connections and couldn't see a problem, so I tried again to go live that day.  But, again the same thing happened. Grrr!

So, I decided to give myself a do-over!  I knew there were a few people who had requested that I offer the workshop again so they could tune in live with me, so I thought that maybe this was the Universe's way of asking me to do it again so they could join in in real time.

Only... that next day, when I went live again... you guessed it! Same. Issue.  

I actually got booted off without warning that time. But I did get just enough of a stable connection to go live again, continue where I left off & was even able to give a live reading to a loyal viewer, who stuck with me through it all! {You know who you are! And thank you again!}


In the moment, while I was focused on delivering my workshop content live, I was feeling the GLOW.  I was actually quite proud of myself for just glowing with it.

It's not just a clever workshop title.  It truly is how I relate to all these deep topics I discuss and work with in my daily life... 


Even in the midst of darkness, when we have no clue what's going on, there is a glow we can access and embody.  

A glow that illuminates for us, exactly what we need to see & know in order to grow and evolve.

And that's exactly why Eclipses are so damn powerful.


Glowing with it doesn't mean you never feel upset or frustrated or whatever else.  It simply means you are able to look for the light hidden in whatever situation you find yourself in, no matter how dire it is.

My weak internet connection was an annoyance.  That annoyance led to frustration.  And to be honest, that frustration led to anger.  A strong internet connection is vital to running my business.  Not only do I love to offer live trainings like that workshop, but I give all of my readings live online via skype or zoom.  I was thankful that a poor internet connection hadn't interfered with any of my readings, but I was committed to solving the issue to prevent any further mishaps!

I felt that anger flow through me and decided to take action to solve the issue== by calling my internet service provider first thing Monday morning!  My guides advised me to put it on my schedule as a reminder, so I did.


Guess what I discovered on that phone call with the customer service rep?

My modem was simply tuned in to the wrong radio station!  After testing my internet speed & running an analysis, it was a very simple fix.  All I had to do was set it to tune in to the proper channel that could handle higher speeds of communication, i.e. the internet.

Hello, synchronicity!

In my workshop, as I explained the bridge between worlds, I described it as tuning in to the right radio station.   

Now I have a funny story to tell & an even better way to relate to this concept, thanks to Divine Intervention. {Divine Intervention is also the Angel card that flipped over for my first attempt at sharing my workshop live!} 

This is just another way we can bring magic to life!  Through experiences like this that show us that everything is connected, everything is beautfiully orchestrated to teach us something, if we are only willing to see it.




Check out my guest blog post 8 Valuable Life Skills I've Learned Being An Empath over at LifeBalanceBook.


Don't Jinx It! How to Break Free from Superstitions That Limit Us

This article has been inspired by the Prince of Swords (depicted here) who, with his sword, is ready to sever the limiting beliefs that pull us in directions we no longer wish to go.

I believe it's extra important to understand this concept during Eclipse Season, because looking at the astrology of it all, THIS alone can help take the edge off anything that may otherwise cause feelings of panic and fear.

I've always been superstitious by nature.  As a child I clung to some pretty irrational notions, avoiding black cats for fear they might cross my path and bring me bad luck, and dancing along the sidewalk chanting,

"Don't step on a crack,

or you'll break your mother's back!"

Over the years, I noticed that some of my superstitions were just my way of making sense of signs or omens.

I explored some on my own to figure out the messages they were bringing me.  Like ravens who always show up in close range (like on my doorstep or the hood of my car) when a loved one will soon pass away.  (That's what it means to me, personally.  Signs like this have different meanings unique to each of us.) As an adult,  I claimed the black cat as my Spirit Animal and now have my sweet cuddly Mo, who you may have seen on instagram.


But there were others that I discovered were self-destructive; limiting beliefs just disguised as quirky little superstitions.

And a big one for me was, "Don't jinx it!" 

I didn't realize the power those three little words had over me until a couple of years ago...


I was deep into my studies of the Law of Attraction.  I was reading books, completing a course certification and listening to Abraham-Hicks religiously at the time.  I was aware of my thoughts, with a deeper understanding of how my "thoughts become things" than ever before.

I started paying closer attention to my words, especially my personal catch phrases like... "Don't jinx it!"

I had noticed that some unpleasant experiences in my life were playing out over and over agian, like a broken record.  And to be honest, I was feeling a bit desperate to stop the pattern.


I became acutely aware that on a deep level, as silly as it sounds on the surface, I really believed in the power of Jinx.

I've been know to be superstitious to a fault, but I had never realized before how deep the roots of my superstitions were.


Then one day in the shower I was thinking to myself about all of these beautiful things I wanted to manifest and I noticed some peculiar thoughts pop up and derail my intentions.  Suddenly I was assuming that IF I experienced those things, something awful WOULD happen, and I was thinking of all the potentially bad scenarios.

Locked in my brain was this automatic, very skewed, reasoning of balance.  I couldn't shake the thought that if I got something really, really good, then something really, really awful would have to happen in exchange for it.  And... it would be my fault.  

Beware the jinx.


As the observer of my thoughts, I started asking myself,

"Why do I believe something bad must happen when I get something good?"

And then it hit me.  

Tears poured down my face as I suddenly remembered where it came from.... 

Down the rabbit hole I went, back to the honeymoon phase of the abusive relationship with my ex-husband.  

He'd go into a violent rage, I'd end up bleeding and leaving with the cops.  Then he'd find me and bring roses and chocolate and say the sweetest things.  Life would be amazing for a while.. he'd shower me with gifts and do all kinds of nice things for me, and then. The rage returned.  Threats to take away my son or even kill me.  The desperate, never-ending cycle of abuse.

And it linked right up to the abuse I experienced in my earlier years, too.  Anchoring this false belief so deep, that it had gone unnoticed for decades.


Every time I was threatened and told "not to tell".  

Every time I was beaten after weeks of picture-perfect romance.  


Somewhere along the line, my young mind decided that it needed control in order to protect me and my loved ones who had been threatened. And I subconsiously latched onto the jinx and made it real for me.


This was a profound realization.  I could suddenly see how it had been showing up in my life.


When something really good happened in my life, like if I got a raise or won something, I rarely told anyone about it -- for fear of jinxing it.

When someone told me something great that happened to them, I would automatically retort, "Oh, don't jinx it!"

And whenever I wanted to uplevel in some way, something would happen to take me back down a notch or two.

{Like the very first time I bought a brand new car (like, not a used one), and a month later I was told I'd have to return it because the financing unexpectedly fell through.  Not only that, but my car, the one I had traded for the new one, had already been sold.  It turned into a disaster.}


I remembered countless stories like that and realized I had started to settle for just okay in my life. I had given up on trying to rise to the next level.  I had let the fear, that totally false and limiting belief, win.

That was a big break-through.  

Facing that superstitious fear head-on meant that it no longer had the power to control my life.  

A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.
— Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.

Since then, I've broken that pattern that had been on repeat for years, the one I was desperate to change.  And while I'm still a work in progress (aren't we all?), my life has changed dramatically.

So is there something that has been playing like a broken record in your life?  

Do you ever feel like you're stuck, ending up in the same place, over and over again, no matter how hard you try to change direction?

Try this...


Pay Attention to Your Personal Catch Phrases

Listen to the advice you give others.  Really pay attention to the words you speak aloud and the advice you give to others.

Limiting beliefs that have been programmed in our subconscious have a funny way of slipping out when we are talking.  

If you're not sure, ask a friend or family member what phrases you use most often.


Be Curious

We think SO many thoughts everyday.  So many we can't even really put a number on it. There's no way we could ever be aware of every single thought that pops into our heads.  But, when you stay curious about your thoughts you'll notice things you didn't before.

Perhaps your mind tends to go of on tangents of What If scenarios.  Maybe you secretly think about avoiding things or people for a similar reason every time.  Get curious about those things that run through your mind and it can stop the auto-pilot long enough for you to take a closer look.

When something comes up for you, simply observe it. Be curious about it and ask questions to learn more.  When did you start believing that?  How did it help you?


Thank Yo'Self!

When you do discover a thought stuck on replay (which is basically all a belief really is), don't judge it.  Thank it!

Understand that however dumb and unrealistic it may seem to you now, it served you in some way, way back when.  And chances are it became a way for you to protect yourself, like my fear of the jinx did.

So what was that thought originally designed to do for you?  That, my dear, is worthy of gratitude.  

I realized that I designed this "don't jinx it" mentality ultimately to protect myself from things that felt out of my control as a child and as a 20 year old domestic violence survivor.  I thanked that younger me, who had such a big heart, and didn't want anyone to get hurt or anything bad to happen.


Seize the Moment

Just like in the image on the Prince of Swords Tarot card, we can cut the chords to those beliefs that pull us away from what we truly want. Now.

We always have the power to change.  Acknowledgment and awareness of what's wrong, gives us the power to release it.

If you're a visual person, it may help to picture this Prince or Archangel Michael (he's an expert at this stuff) weilding a mighty sword and severing those energetic chords of your psychological conditioning.

If you're more of a hands-on type, write it all out on paper and shred it or burn it, to release that energy.

Doing something to actively release the old superstition or belief works like magic!  

It doesn't mean that you'll never have to do it again, though.  Remember that whatever your belief, it was programmed long ago and has been practiced (subconsciously) for probably many, many years.  Be gentle with yourself if it takes some time to really let it go.

But once you've uncovered the truth, and sought to understand it, healing begins to happen naturally.  You'll notice when you speak the words or hold back in the same ole way as you did before... because you're onto it.